What are the right words to say to someone who has just lost a loved one?
I'm sorry for your loss?
God has his reasons, though we might not know them?
I don't think there are any, truly. In the deep depths of sorrow, I can't imagine I would want to hear any of that personally, so I refuse to say it to anyone. A really good friend from high school has recently lost her love and it has been made extremely clear by way of FB just how much misery she is in. My heart breaks for her and her daughter and I can't get them off my mind. I can't even imagine the pain she is feeling. You always wish you could find the right words, know the right action to make all the pain disappear. In truth, there is little I can do other than let her know I'm loving and thinking of her, which I have done multiple times already. I can't hop a plane and fly to NY to be by her side. I can't hold her hand through the service tomorrow or give her a shoulder to cry on. I can't do her laundry, cook her meals, or help care for her daughter. Those are all the things I would do to make up for the words I don't have for her.
The road that lays ahead for her isn't one that I would want to walk. Other's loss and grief puts your own life into perspective.
With love,Mama Hauck